But his language had changed he still didn't pepper the conversation with I love yous and pet names and when I asked him why he seems emotionally detached on text he got frustrated and said he thought everything was good and just because he does not say it does not mean that he doesn't feel the same way. . I love him so much and have invested so much time. It's up to you to remember this and know that you don't even know him well enough to know if he was all that. Then i found out that besides the house he sending money to his sister and brother who have their own family to pay their bills such as electric, water, personal needs and etc. Bottom line, don't make it about you without paying better attention to other things that may be going on that you may have missed.
We are both juniors in college, we go to different colleges. You can rebuild a real connection and attraction by putting some space between you! Very full on from the start, he made all the first moves and I held back. You have princess tendencies If you keep lashing out unrealistic demands, your man is bound to crack sooner or later. The good news is that we can. There are always power dynamics at play in relationships, and that remains true, even after a breakup.
By making yourself available, he understands that he can come to you if he needs to, but it also gives him some space to think. Hi Jane, I found that reading your article was enlightening for me. Your first instinct may be to cling tighter to him to keep him from slipping away. When I have mentioned this to him, his response is usually he hadn't realized this and would work on changing it. The question for you is whether or not who you're seeing right now in front of you in the person he is works for you. What will always help if shifting the focus off of him and onto you and your own life so that how attentive he is or isn't doesn't affect your own self-worth.
I wrote,This may sound cheesy to you. He also told me he wouldn't commit to anything right now, but that he wanted to keep what we have and figure things out when the time comes. That's what matters more than anything else. He said we are free to go or do whatever we want if we can't take it anymore but he will take my kids. Just disgusted with them and didn't want to help them with anything. You reminded him a real relationship is always about two. They need time to process things and be on their own.
At a point I started checking on him that I got used to him. At first i thought it was just a temporary thing and maybe all he needed was space, until he became more comfortable with not contacting me at all for days. We're both military and have been dating for the last 7 months. And also that I had confessed around the time he thought his feelings of infatuation were decreasing. Most women react the same way when their man becomes distant for no apparent reason. B You're not doing anything wrong but he's uncomfortable mentioning what is bothering him or what's wrong. That really doesn't seem unreasonable to me.
We are from same professional backgrounds and both working. We've barely spoken since we returned. I suggest 5 months apart should be a maximum. Find a good man, accept him for everything that he is and him for his imperfections. Life isn't a Disney film you know. Focus and be more active in your life.
Is he stressed in other parts of his life? Your advice was on point and I'm very grateful for that. I'm wondering if I should call him tomorrow which is Monday…a week since I talked to him or continue to sit on my hands and let him do what he has to do and let him come to me. Thank you for your kind words, Alissa. I can't help but feel something else is going on here. This type of behavior is not healthy, not honoring of ourselves, our own worth. It made me realize I deserve better than what he is able to give me.
Slow your relationship down for a while to make him feel more relaxed. In fact, we know a few good reasons why men back up from their women. In 8 years of dating him, he was always faithful. I don't know what to do anymore pls help me Hi jane, My name is Amber I am 29 I have been abused mentally and physically literally my whole life 4 years ago i truly thought and felt I finally met the man that finally could show me what love and caring really was and he did for a year then when I was 5 months pregnant with our daughter he changed started becoming cold and mean he has single handedly broken my heart worse then anyone has my whole life I left him after our daughter turned a year and ended up going back a month later because he started getting the help he needed started taking meds it was great recently he has become cold and mean again everything I say or do is wrong he calls me names makes me feel so ugly and useless and then makes me feel like I deserve what he was doing then would turn around and say he really didn't mean it and he didn't know why he is this way to me he moved into his own place and we have continued to try and make it work but now he is saying he doesn't think it's worth trying to work it out that he doesnt know if he loves me he says he knows something is wrong with him and he knows its selfish but he wants me to himself and can't have that. I'm concerned that something else is bothering him and he's distracted by it, therefore being a little detached from me.
On the other hand, you may find that this bit of distance between you actually brings you closer together when the two of you are together. In a relationship, both parties need to put in equal effort. This is a very important distinction that most women overlook. Wondering why your man's been acting strange? Others join sports teams or have a night with friends. You came to the right place for help.