They think that if they say something sweet and loving, that they are putting down their guard and making themselves seem weak. It sounds like they are being afraid that they won't be real men if they actually say something. When he asks, Why are you already in bed under the covers? The funny thing about this list is that you'd expect that each one of those statements came from men, you'd be wrong. And therefore, men feel that after a bad day at work, going to a bar and grabbing some drinks to relax is a better option than going home and answering their wives as to what is wrong? They fear if they show a more vulnerable side, it will over shadow their other masculine traits. Some men may never show their emotions even if they trust her.
Your wife will love you for it. A man afraid to open up has failed to articulate feelings to himself. He stays faithful Commitment is a big deal for men. He is an officer of the law, and has been absorbed mentally and emotionally by his job, to both of our detriments i feel. Men do not like to hear other men complain.
They'll say they want a nice guy and end up with a jerk. Sure this will work out well because pushing feelings down has known to have great effects on a man's psyche. The waters you are able to swim and navigate are more shallow. Yes I can answer, yes I feel your frustration but at the end of the day, it is a useless frustration how other person dresses or talks. While I would not dare to claim that this is true for everyone, I often wonder if this is perhaps part of the reason why society has evolved in such a way that men are reluctant to talk about their feelings. This relates to a few studies that have been done over the years which point out that men who are emotional aren't able to cope with the world as well as men who are aware of their emotions but don't act on them.
Inkinen's answer resonates with me. But don't think you need to fix anything. Venture beyond the shoreline, and even more possibility opens up. Honestly, if I had a choice, I probably would like to ignore the fact that they exist altogether. And when he feels that way, he quickly justifies why he is his own man, and if it is not good enough for you, then screw you, he will just withdraw to himself. It's not something they ever want to think about. We don't like talking about our feelings, unless we are having a really deep discussion with our wives in order to save or fix our marriage Because it goes against the stereotype that society has put on males.
If they don't meet those expectations, then men are thought of as not masculine. I'll tell you something though, that's one tell-tale sign that they're guilty. Just because they don't express their feelings, that doesn't mean they're not hurt. They weren't always like this. However, by empathizing with his concerns about being ganged up on, and showing him quickly that we could help, by explaining to him why his relationship had gone sour and how it might get better, he bought into the process. This is the crucial part but if you are able to do this, then you have already taken your relationship to another level with your partner.
Ask a woman What are you feeling or How are you? He doesn't want to drag you into anything unnecessary like his feelings. See things for what they really are and be realistic. You Are Not Free Staying on the shore, you never really get to test if your vessel is seaworthy. This is not the scenario in every country. Generally, feelings are best expressed during a calm and structured or semi-structured exchange. But in this case, it's much too pronounced and detracts from the relationship in a majorly negative way.
They feed off of your emotions they need to feel it. Non-verbal communication and body language is much more important when a man wants to express aggression, anger, frustration and even love. Frank, I know from our earlier conversation, you also have lots of feelings about this relationship… I indicate the floor is his. I've been married for almost 36 years and I love my husband dearly, but to be honest there are times I feel like pulling his lower lip over his head at times. Or if he felt anything, it was just annoyed being with me because I was not good enough. You cannot see below the surface until you are still.
I am in therapy at the moment with my wife. To speed the process along, I engage in a technique I call directive empathy. A sharing of responsibilities means more openness and a better relationship. Although, if she said this in order to demean him, she's wrong and perpetuating the belief that it's shameful for a man to earn less. The idea that men are to remain strong, silent and capable is a total myth, and belongs more in 1917, than 2017.
It depends and there is a limit. Your so emotional… And on the list goes. While I believe this is the most important and direct way to true love, gives you additional insight and perspective. It can stunt their sensitivity to inner feelings and thoughts or the emotions of those around them. You are afraid of being exposed as weak and vulnerable.