There are many threads of messages and websites which advice us on sexual performance. She accused me of not loving her and said that if I truly did still love her, it would not matter about her physical appearance. Brain is the first and foremost sexual organ, then comes rest. One other obvious observation that you have to be blunt with her about is her bringing negative attention to when you are going limp isn't going to help. It gives us permission to have needs and weakness.
It's absolutely critical for us to know that you don't blame yourself. In other words, there are dozens of reasons he might not be getting it up, which have absolutely nothing to do with your relationship. So today, instead of assuming your normal starfish position, you climb on top of your boyfriend, grin sheepishly and prepare to do him proud. Yesterday before I went to class I accidentally forgot to take it and later that night we had the best sex we have had. Check side effects of any meds you may be taking. This should take care of two of the issues in one experience! A male reader, anonymous, writes 5 August 2010 : His libido may just naturally be around the 2 day mark. I for one do not use it as an excuse.
It is a turning point for me though. In fact having sex is fundamental to a better life and health. It turned out to be caused by a testosterone deficiency, that is linked to my ongoing medical condition, disability and my medication. Hard after 33 years of marriage but at least I would know where I stood. Im a 20 year old male and ever since that day i havent been able to get fully erect. I am to the point where I am concerned now.
I'd recommend the second option. I suspect my husband has been getting his somewhere else and feels he has to perform with me and then struggles. If you use your wild imagination, there are hundreds if not thousands of ways that you can search on internet. I have tried many different things and all that used to work and keep him erect like sucking and playing with him. We have since parted ways but remain friends.
I see him often, daily at work because our stores are 50 feet from each other. I tried it tonight, and it works very well so hopefully I can have sex the next time if she actually comes over this weekend. Google kegel and visit few sites. Talk about the options, together. What is it the root cause of sexual malfunction? At 55 I have learned to accept it now. Thank you to the author who posted this and for those that commented.
I really would just like to be successfully fucked without issue. He works a lot and he has to work from his laptop often it is true, I always see him using excel and studying diagrams. Hey I'm 20 and I've got the same problem not staying hard. This is where the physiological and the psychological partner up and shut it down, to protect their dude. Midway through the last years when things were very bad I lost my ability to gain an erection. Despite what porn might have us believe, m with the insane ability to stay hard for five hours while also jackhammering away. She also says she not attracted to me anymore and doesn't get aroused by me since I am not hard as I used to be and that I need to lose weight i could use losing weight, but I;m not obese or that fat.
I have absolutely no problem getting hard and staying that way during forplay and if it goes down I can quickly get it back up. For many, this is the 'essence' of your masculinity, after all. Relax, be patient, and help him find him some help if he needs it. We have given up because the meds are way too expensive. The simple thought of thinking we must think to get up will make us go limb, that's the reality. I see him often, daily at work because our stores are 50 feet from each other. He's just not horny right now.
Pretty soon, you're in Hallmark territory, quoting bad pop lyrics. It frees us up to shed our armor—to move throughout the world unburdened by our layers of protection. I'm 5'7 tall and weigh about 110 lbs. Get naturally sexy, you know how, not over board unless you know that really turns him on. Did you ever watch My Big Fat Greek Wedding? Anyways he watches the porn on his phone and the phone is always between us and it urks me so tonight I took the phone away from him and the expression on his face to me was like total boredom and he went soft and he says its cause the porn helps him stay hard cause he's on the muscle relaxers. My boyfriend can't stay hard anymore! It may take some time and effort , but most things worth doing require it.