Hey everybody I have read all the comments you guys put up and this is what I think. Wanting to just be myself but questioning if there is something wrong with me. There are those who are confident enough in themselves, because they understand themselves, to take on Goliath. Like buddy, give my ear a break. Recently I had to ask my sister to stop explaining me to people. The topic of the night was constantly about weddings and housing, me being single and not over the break up was dying during the conversation and I simply just could not contribute to anything.
It was really bad for me when I was at a church that I used to go to. That's why it annoys me, now - what kind of a person says something to someone else that puts them in that obvious, strange position of having no where to go with a response? Once the strengths in shyness is actually thought of as an advantage then it must be so!. We are beautiful just the way we are — however that maybe; we exist therefore we have our purpose and right to be here. Found much vibes in this article. Even my mother has joked about it to people. Imagine this situation: I am standing in the corner of a large party, having my juice, and silently observing.
He does better with smaller groups , one on one. So many times we have great ideas swirling around in our mind and we need a moment to connect the dots. Hopefully others here will eventually come to that conclusion. Give them space by closing your mouth. You can learn how to participate in conversations same as you'd learn to run a marathon -- with a lot of practice and sweating and. They do not realize the impact that it can have on us quiet people. When I was younger, I used to think that the louder ones were the ones to worry about, but life has taught me that, in reality, the exact opposite is true.
I scored 10pts above the national average on both of my registries. When I am in a class of students, teachers have noticed only my quietness, when many others were silent too. They immediately seek to fill it with their own voice. Often when at an impasse I keep talking, or rather thinking out loud, and some thoughts just need to stay tucked away in the corner of your mind. I got tired of reading though.
Without seeing new faces every where you go. Empty air space is something that is unfamiliar and unwelcome for them. I have a blog here in Brazil and talk about shyness, loneliness and introversion. If you think hobbies is a answer. So instead of asking why they aren't talking, give them something to talk about.
People who can be reserved often get frustrated when someone blurts out, Why are you so quiet? They prefer to fly under the radar, silently producing the best work and the most incredible art. If I do something that I want and I am not quiet they are very surprised of this. When introverts and highly sensitive people have their quietness pointed out, two things happen. It reflects that you are disinterested, not having adequate knowledge to comment or you feel that others are mediocre and will not understand or appreciate your view points. I find it far less stressful to sit there and watch their bottomless pit of neediness being part fulfilled.
It makes me feel really anxious and self conscious. I do know they seek fulfillment through talking and feel they have connected with others for having done so. Or at least they are comfortable until someone makes a point of how little they are talking and tries to awkwardly force them into spitting out more words for the sake of words. Revel in the fact that you are giving the world a gift, the gift of silence. I love sharing sentences with meaning and purpose.
There you have it — 7 great strengths that shy people have. Large social situations can be very draining. Thanks again for raising this important issue. I was totally fine with it, it was his comments that bothered and upset me. I find it hard to feel comfortable around new people I just see glazes of judgement in their faces. With experience in the line of fire, one comes to appreciate that positive energy helps to stay on the path, not only individually but collectively! What mistakes do talkers make concerning quiet people? It just seems like, ironically, the most socially awkward thing a person could ever do, saying You don't talk much, do you? After varsity I decided to do something about it.
But, for me, that was a long lesson to really internalize- it took a lot of reassurance and positive reinforcement from him, which was a kindness on his part. People including those who think a quiet, shy person is a disorder that needs remediation of some sort aches me to my core and one reason of me now seeking to become a hermit — avoiding all people as much as possible. It is a trait I admire in many leaders I have worked both for and beside. I like an interesting conversation if possible. I have a hard time being heard since my voice is not as loud as I would like it to be. Although he talked to me in a very friendly manner, it was like a coded message that he does not like my personality and wants me to leave the company. Maybe Dr phil can explain this.