I know this does not speak true to all, which is why it's a personal experience, but I had a girlfriend who told me when we started dating that she had a best friend who was a guy. Moving from friendship to romance is a risk that may be challenging to take. Let's face it: during the first few months of dating someone new, it's easy to hold yourself together and pretend like you don't have a dark side everybody has one. So, while you'd love to still dress up for special dates, you know that one false move won't change anything. Obviously you know that he likes hanging out with you, so you don't have to interpret vague texts or lament with your girlfriends about the issue. Have you ever had that moment when you were hanging out with a platonic male friend, and then he got weird? First dates are the absolute worst. It might not be helpful, but it will be genuine.
He will assure you that you are important to him. The special bond you shared as friends becomes a memory. Romantic love until they start it happened right ladies shouldn't make snarky comments about the friend-zone. If the worst was to happen, would you still be able to be friends with the person? They say even if their guy friend were somehow interested, they would never be unfaithful. He might joke about your gross yet satisfying nail biting habit, or he's probably aware that one glass of wine too many makes you weirdly political in social settings.
Just imagine him as a partner, just one time, and see if your perception changes a bit. If you both bond over something, dates won't be as hard to plan. Dating your best friend is almost like living in a real life movie. Add intrigue to the relationship to keep and increase their interest. He wants to hang out every weekend. It's because you've already labeled him or her as something else.
Be honest with yourself: Are you on the fence some of the time, unsure if you want to move your friend chemistry into a full-blown relationship? The moment of truth inevitably arrives during a long car ride, when you have no choice but to put on the radio because the two of you have no common interests. Read full disclaimer and Legal Notices. You grieve the loss of a friendship, the loss of a conversation partner who made you laugh, who hugged you as you cried, who listened to you talk about a bad day, or who took you to an art museum just to make you smile. The attraction he feels is more of a slow-burn instead of fireworks. What man would not be interested in pursuing this person as a romantic partner? In fact, some of your very best friends are probably members of the opposite sex.
Our worldview, and a group setting, people love to know what you. If you're putting an event together, he's your hype man. When he hugs you, it feels like he's making out with you using only his arms. So when you're having a rough day, he can remind you of something you said weeks ago that he can recall verbatim because everything you say means something to him because you mean something to him. He's the first one you call when you're down, and no matter what, he always knows what to say. He helped you move apartments last year, and made dinner with all your favorites that week your boss decided to rule with an iron fist.
Might as well milk this for all it's worth in the meantime. But then one afternoon, after we'd both independently moved out of D. I'm glad it worked out--good for you, for being bold enough to lay it on the line! I though we were starting to move toward dating again, then came my birthday. Even if you have to fake happiness, so be it. Your mood is elevated during his presence, even if it's when you're doing something stupid like snarking on movie selections.
Also, he named his boat after you. You have all the same hobbies and interests, and when you're both single, you basically use each other for dates as it is. Similarly, don't start dating your best friend if you've just been brutally dumped by someone and you're feeling bad about yourself--or if your friend has just had a similar experience. While you may have done many activities together as friends, a shared getaway is a distinctly romantic thing to do. And unless your parents ever pulled you aside with advice like, I don't trust this hooligan! Sometimes, you guys out only is that your best friend. You have completely open and uninhibited conversations with each other.