I love giving to the needy, working at an animal shelter, writing, cooking, baking, watching movies, and taking care of my little cousins. When confronted he acts like no big deal but you can tell he is nervous, this is hard for me because we just had a baby 2-months ago. So, I put my profile back up today and I am not going to tell him. I am 24 yrs old and bf ex bf the same age. But regardless, what do you do about it? Perhaps this might help you as well. Guess what — if you did then you are not ready to be honest with her or yourself. The next morning I asked why he always tried to meet me during weekdays and he said it was just a coincidence cos his weekends would get so busy.
I came back to my computer, curious to see who had viewed my profile. He not only read the email but he also viewed my profile. He is affectionate and kind, all the traits I was looking for. Is he really your boyfriend or has your imagination carried you away in this relationship? And that he stays online because he is afraid of closing all doors and just be with me, the first woman. He assured me that his subscription was going to expire soon and he would not be renewing and that he was only responding to email letting people know he was seeing someone. He said that I was making a big deal out of nothing.
I said it was up to him I want him to take it down because he wants to not because I want him to… I did say that him keeping his profile active made me feel that he wished to keep his options open and that if he wanted me to feel that way then to carry on. She seemed surprised and immediately asked him about it. On our 5th date, he asked if we could become exclusive. He has also updated his description. Maria October 13, 2011 Hi Brad, Glad I found this site. To sum it all up: I would expect that within the first month of actively dating each other that you should have an idea of where you stand and I would expect his profile to be down.
Because of the slowness, I feel like feelings have not developed too strongly between us but they may have potential to do so some day. About a year and a half onto our relationship I found that he had not signed out of his email so I started reading them. . At first it was hard to connect but then we did connect. Another week goes by and his profile is gone. Then he will always know that I found out and, the guilt he may feel could jeopardise our relationship. We have a great time together and he calls every night to chat or say goodnight.
It was sad — he is pressing 60, I am upper 40s. Is He Interested in Me or Not? Are you just mildly annoyed by this, or is this a more serious issue to you? Can you please give me some advice on this? I think there might be a third option which would be to do a little of both. He may like you, he may love you, he may be into you but…. She later said she would do the same and we took off the auto-renewal but we both never bothered to hide our profiles. Firstly he didn't get a number off someone or walking down the street bumped into someone. I am a little upset so a few days I set up a fake profile with photos of another friend he has never met and messaged him.
Why look at real people in your area and be tempted to contact them? There was all these messages from the dating website that we meet on. He talks marriage, knows my ring size, and talks about our future and potential children. I have a daughter who was 17 at the time. That text he sent to me by mistake screams that messing up with me bothers him. I set up a fake profile on okcupid where he is looking for everything including casual sex which he has now expressed his interest in. I read the messages and confronted him, and he used the excuse that he did not cheat, flirts all the time, but he is also very insecure with himself and his age. And I am not going to ask him about what he wants to do.
March 22, 2012 Hi Brad, All these answers are very helpful, thank you! Lets retain some reality, because being online is so surreal and the rules of engagement so different to real life that some surely find it unbalancing. If after a week his is still up, you could try dropping hints: maybe mention that you took your profile down or talk about how you enjoy spending time with him. He should not be surprised after all he is the one who said he would delete his. My issue comes with him still having his profile up, and with my curiosity getting the best of me, I check almost everyday just to see when he last logged on — seems to be every few days or so. He said we were but he put it back because he felt like he was just doing it for me and if he started changing little things then it would lead to other things. I broke up with my bf, and it has not been easy.
I felt if he was into me then he would without asking him to. In my situation he is now an ex for a reason. One thing about the advice above is that someone women will want to start this process immediately after the first date. Rhonda November 3, 2011 This just happened to me two days ago for a second time with a guy I was seeing for 7 months. In your case, he asked you to be his girlfriend…he needs to cut out the unnecessary continuation of online dating now. Again he pushed it back on me and I had had enough.
I logged in now and then, and noticed for about a week his was still on. I have not confronted my boyfriend about this online dating profile yet. The emails he wrote to her were very flattering and he said beautiful things to her just like he did when he first met me and how he wanted to meet her and possiibly have a relationship with her. I went to hospital to keep him company. I asked him if things were still good because I really wanted things to work out between us. Ok, so he has never taken his profile down and he did not want to do anything different because that is just him. The guy and I met on eHarmony shortly after we both signed up, in early July.