I started to feel like these guys were keeping tabs on where I was, who I was with, and what I was doing — even though we hadn't had any kind of direct interaction in years. That, and the curiosity of wanting to know what a particular person is up to. It seems like this happens to everyone in this modern age nowadays. No matter how much time went by and despite the fact that she unfriended her match on Facebook, they just kept on creepin' all of her Instagram content. So, now that you have a definitive word to describe what you've probably experienced before, you can commence liftoff into the galaxy of dating and be mindful of orbiting as it continues to happen.
It was dubbed 'orbiting' due to those who do it 'keeping you in their orbit' - and it is ridiculously relatable. Or — and this may just be my cynicism talking — the power move is in place to manipulate you, to push you to contact them. But that oxytocin rush comes with consequences. Social media offers a unique, voyeuristic look into the lives of individuals with whom we have even the most casual of relationships. Long Story Have you ever been on a Tinder date after which you were ghosted only to discover that your very own Casper was watching all your Insta Stories and liking all your posts. Why do they still like posts on Twitter when they have no intention of being friendly? I got so mad that I texted him that he better stop watching my stories if he planned to keep ignoring my messages.
In a study conducted by , being on social media for just 10 minutes. It's called , per an essay by writer Anna Iovine that went viral earlier this year. And if one of your exes is orbiting you? Well, according to Man Repeller, there's a name for what that person did to you and it's called. Totally normal Bechdel test-failing stuff. But, this trend continues to grow every year and affect more women. Which, you know, also sucks and not the best way to end things. Source:Supplied Lawson warns that while an optimistic person may interpret orbiting as showing interest,.
You don't think it's a big deal because your breakup was amicable, but it can give them the impression that you're not over them or that you're keen on reigniting the flame in the future. And if you thought ghosting was mega rude, wait until you learn about orbiting, which, by the way, you've definitely experienced unknowingly at one point or another. One thing is for certain though. Meet orbiting: It's like , but worse. If it's truly bothering you, feel free to mute or block them; if it's just the occasional like or fave, unless you're actually interested in reinitiating contact or getting back together, don't respond in kind.
Take some time to figure out what's really going on. Creeping, however, is distinct from orbiting. Here's what you should know about and why you should avoid the temptation to do it. After our second date, he stopped answering my texts. If you've ghosted someone, maybe you had a good reason.
The phenomenon begins when the person you've been seeing suddenly disappears from your life, pretending you're a stranger, just like ghosting. That in itself is proof that there's something better out there for you. But I continued to see him pop up all over my social media, liking my photos some from like five years ago , and commenting on my status updates. You can always check them out daily on social media. But what does it allll mean if they no longer want to date you, but want to continue to keep tabs on you via social media? You like their Instagram posts.
I started dating a man — let's call him Tyler — a few months ago. You might make them think that you're eager to get back together — why else would you be liking and reading all their posts? They're keeping communication ever so slightly open, just in case they decide they want to start things up again. Those on the receiving end can be led to think should I reach out to them again? Source:istock Writer Ann Iovine gives an example of a recent dating experience to illustrate the new trend. They Might Sniff You Out It might feel safe to check up on someone's Instagram feed daily since it's not like you're driving past their home where they can see you from behind the living room curtains. Now, remember when they drove you up a wall by continuing to watch every single one of your and Snapchat despite the fact that they ghosted you? But the person on the receiving end might interpret your behavior differently. Research published in the found that stalking your ex on social media increases longing for them, sexual desire, and mental distress.
If circumstances change for example, the orbiter decides they want to pursue a relationship , the orbiting behavior also offers a relatively easy entry to return back into your life i. Despite the fact that he wouldn't respond to her, he would still continue to watch her stories and as though he was keeping tabs on her. If circumstances change for example, the orbiter decides they want to pursue a relationship , the orbiting behaviour also offers a relatively easy entry to return back into your life. As O'Neill said, If circumstances change for example, the orbiter decides they want to pursue a relationship , the orbiting behavior also offers a relatively easy entry to return back into your life i. Long Story Short There's simply no escaping annoying online dating trends, as singles continue finding new ways to drive their dates mad.