After a long and restless night, we met again. If they turn from Christ and the growing in the knowledge of His instructions then we should be concerned to try to awaken them to this condition they have fallen into. Ron, if you don't repair the foundation of your marriage, it won't survive. Her husband does not see it as an issue. Do not let ungodly thoughts dwell in you. However, He also knows that we are weak, selfish individuals who will commit adultery despite His warnings and commandments, so He provided a way for us to break out of our destructive, sinful patterns. This was one of the most difficult aspects of my discovery but medical people are not shocked about it …another sad commentary on our times.
Sooner or later they will become desperate to seek help. We always thank God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, when we pray for you, since we heard of your faith in Christ Jesus and of the love that you have for all the saints, because of the hope laid up for you in heaven. For he who said, 'Do not commit adultery,' also said, 'Do not murder. Nor is it playing the martyr, enjoying the performance of forgiving people because it perpetuates our victim role. It is sometimes hard for us to see when we are blinded by tears of regret and hear the whispers of accusation for all that we have done but you have forgiven and cleansed.
When one comes to faith in Jesus Christ, by confessing and repenting of his or her sin, God is faithful to remove the guilt, shame, and future penalty that sin carried with it. Several ways for a man to learn to control his flesh is to learn how to avoid the people, places and activities that he knows will present more temptations. Anthony, I think what you are getting at in that you are coming across the very present tone in our culture and world which actually as been this way since the beginning. In Galatians 5, adultery is listed as one of the works of the flesh verse 19 as opposed to the fruit of the Spirit. Cheating simply does not help uphold that standard.
God hates it when a person seeks a divorce that is based on trivial reasons, such as simply not being satisfied with a mate. Continue steadfastly in prayer, being watchful in it with thanksgiving. You can't just ignore the fact that your wife had an affair. Feel free to correct me if I am wrong. Darkening of the mind and understanding is the result of sinful, persistently practiced and willful sin as I observe and understand it. You claim that there are no Scriptures anywhere in the Old or New Testaments that speak of forgiving yourself. We all have done things we regret.
Isa 55:11 So shall my word be that goeth forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it. Dad turned to me and continued, Nancy, when you tell someone you're sorry, it's very different from asking for their forgiveness. Is self-forgiveness a scriptural idea? We have a Savior very familiar with our obstacles to maturity and thus we have to confess and then obey by continuing to learn , and grow up in Him…. My voice trembled as I said, Daddy, I want to ask Ron to forgive me, but what do I say? All the people came to him, and he sat down and taught them. The Devil wants people to live by their senses and to serve the flesh …but the scripture tells us.
And since he could not pay, his master ordered him to be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and payment to be made. You talk about being on the way to righteousness and not being there yet. I see your sincerity and your pain though. Should this wife continue to be married to the spouse? You two are going to have to figure out why your fell apart. I know your difficulty as I too did not know much of this and as a young adult made poor choices….
Ron forgave me -- miraculously. My husband said he thought I was happy. I am in a position where I have had to learn more and more of what it means from the Word of how to follow and do what Christ tells his followers. I wish I had a dime for every person that has heard this as an entry excuse to be unfaithful! Dear Jack, Thank you for your advice to talk to my Pastor. Ron will decide whether to forgive you. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.
I cheated on my first two husbands before and during our marriages. And some do not consider marriage to be a permanent union. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. My way is to make do with whatever I am given and I am not good with numbers. Maybe all you can offer today is, I want to forgive you, but right now I'm struggling emotionally. I grieve for this woman since she was drawn into a relationship with a man who most likely did not know how to make his marriage satisfactory or perhaps did not know how to decide who to marry in the first place.
Dad sighed and asked us, What's your plan? The Gnostic approach to life is very active in not only compelling people to follow after their fleshly urges and desires but in the idea that what you do with you body has no effect upon your salvation. Then God chose him to be the second king of Israel. One step forward; two steps back. We need to change the way we respond to them and quit expecting them to be different. Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? God and my husband had already given me the keys, but I had refused to use them.